Scotch Magazine
Oh joy, where are you?
Happy Birthday! Happy New Year! Happy anniversary something first, finally something happy, happy first or order something! Humans love to every one wants the happiness of others. And why not? Our country gives us, to other rights, the pursuit of happiness. We the right and we want to claim it! There is a new generation among us – the car was reported on the successful applicants.
With traditional media instantaneous forcing happiness in our throats, it is not surprising that emerge from a desire hypnotic haze of images very cliché. It takes an extraordinarily strong and motivated person to see beyond the brainwashing and, unfortunately, there is no one size fits all solution for this too complicated equation.
Sometimes we have gone too long without the happiness that we have forgotten what it seems, not even recognized when all around us. We have confused the happiness and comfort we have accepted the money instead of happiness. We think we are happy because we are getting more, go further, earn more, check things off the list. Come and go – sometimes like we're climbing a mountain and sometimes like we're running on a hamster wheel. Rarely do we stop to ask – Are we happy? Do we have even know what makes us happy?
Life is like the Goliath and we are the Davids. We are bred to persevere and survive. Sometimes, our limits will pushed our limits and be tested. We can be so overwhelmed as we are swimming against the tide forever. We can get without hope and without power and we can find diving head first into a life full of anxiety and depression.
Depression has become so common a diagnosis as the common cold. Has infiltrated in our society, affecting rich and poor men and women, adults and children. The depression of propaganda has permeated our homes with messages on TV ads in magazines, posters in subway stations. We are told that the symptoms and tell us where to go for help (hint: prescription drugs.) We say that hurts everyone around us. So we want to fix it.
We are a race impatient and want instant gratification; antidepressants offer a quick (often on a temporary) solution. In reality they are like the tape when you need crazy glue. Antidepressants are the most commonly prescribed drugs in our country. Last year, U.S. doctors wrote prescriptions for antidepressants 232.7 million to an estimated 30 million patients who spent more than $ 12 billion dollars pursuit of happiness in a pill.
Incidentally, researchers have concluded that the pill of happiness only benefit the majority of patients with severe depression, while just as effective as a placebo for those who are mildly or moderately depressed. Translation: a lot of pill addicts of happiness would save much money by switching from Prozac to TAC Tic. Drugs will numb the pain, but not eliminate it.
Depression is a chronic disease – Something you have to watch all the time, like a diet. We must put ourselves in a maintenance program happy. Discover how to mouthfuls of life makes us happy and weave them, such as vitamins, in our lives.
There is a subcategory of applicants for happy: American women. It is the modern version of the crisis forty-one number of over-achieving women face at different times. In our 20 or 60 years ours. One day we discovered that we stumbled out of the way were (often blindly) following. We may have been pushed out of the way, we can have a jump off the road. Different causes, same effect: we lost and confused.
We cross out the days ruled by a perpetual calendar List of tasks that usually follows the formula of the cross something out, add two more to the bottom. We resist the temptation to say no because somehow internalize that as a failure. We promise to everyone but ourselves because know that these are the most difficult to maintain. We have a bag full of heavy fine and fragile as all things, sooner or later break.
Women are often placed in the back of a long list of candidates competing for the dangling carrot of happiness. Before us are our children, our spouses, our parents, our homes, our communities, our jobs.
But in the end everyone gets that day. Life bitch slap him in the face – Just when you're down. Suckers then punch in the stomach. And when what you really want to prove a point, life will kick your sorry ass to sidewalk. Sometimes it feels like our lives have been shattered so badly, leaving a visible tear.
But lessons in life rarely come without pain. In fact, they bring all sorts of emotional – anger, resentment, frustration. We want our turn at the wheel of happiness – but somehow we have forgotten how to steer the beast. Like the victims of the movement of life, some of us have to relearn how to be happy.
We have to take in the fact that we can not control everything. Not coincidentally, is the mantra for every 12-step program. We must not allow ourselves to find our happiness, but we must overcome our obstacles. Above all the blame obstacle. Women bear a burden of collective gender, we are enduring the same struggles as our mothers and grandmothers. Even more, give and take under.
Why should we feel guilty about being happy?
Maybe because we see many people who are not. Maybe we have a gene martyr. Perhaps our Happiness comes at the expense of someone else. Maybe we feel guilty about the source of our happiness. We let it go, what is our fault paralyzed. This is where have control.
We must allow ourselves to feel happy. We must stop punishing ourselves for past mistakes. We have to stop lamenting the bad decisions and begin to learn from them. We must forgive ourselves. We must learn to accept our instincts and rely on our decision-making capabilities. If we allow fear paralyze us from taking a risk, we are leaving us stuck in boots of lead in the bottom of an ocean of problems. If we do not value our happiness, the world either.
In any situation, we can choose to take the initiative or you can choose to strip. Choosing happiness is proactive and let life choose for us is reactive. It's our job to change the assets, the door will not open if you do not call him.
Essential in this pursuit of happiness is a fundamental change we need to do in our thinking. Faced with difficult situations, we can either use the defeatists "why me?" we can think or claim by transforming in the "me, because …" thought. Generally, a silver lining, sometimes it is harder to find. It's our job, to remove happiness.
Life is an uncertain ground travel blindfolded. No one at the end to remove the blindfold in a great time to reveal. Any time can be illuminating. Any time can be illuminating. You can always add edge of our tunnel vision. At any moment may be the crucial moment when everything becomes clear.
Life is just a series of moments strung; steps to lower your path. The moments that take us through. They strengthen us, help us grow, and give us the opportunity to be David against Goliath of Life.
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